By Susan River

You may think that you and your fiancé have talked about everything…but have you discussed the issues that will make your marriage work? Author Susan Piver reveals the questions you and your partner should answer before you say “I do.”

Question 1: What percentage of our income are we prepared to spend to purchase and maintain our home on a monthly or annual basis?

Question 2: Who is responsible for keeping our house and yard cared for and organized? Are we different in our needs for cleanliness and organization?

Question 3: How much money do we earn together? Now? In one year? In five years? Ten? Who is responsible for which portion? Now? In one year? Five? Ten?

Question 4: What is our ultimate financial goal regarding annual income, and when do we anticipate achieving it? By what means and through what efforts?

Question 5: What are our categories of expense (rent, clothing, insurance, travel)? How much do we spend monthly, annually, in each category? How much do we want to be able to spend?

Question 6: How much time will each of us spend at work, and during what hours? Do we begin work early? Will we prefer to work into the evening?

Question 7: If one of us doesn’t want to work, under what circumstances, if any, would that be okay?

Question 8: How ambitious are you? Are we comfortable with the other’s level of ambition?

Question 9: Am I comfortable giving and receiving love sexually? In sex, does my partner feel my love for him or her?

Question 10: Are we satisfied with the frequency of our lovemaking? How do we cope when our desire levels are unmatched? A little? A lot? For a night? A week? A month? A year? More?

Question 11: Do we eat meals together? Which ones? Who is responsible for the food shopping? Who prepares the meals? Who cleans up afterward?

Question 12: Is each of us happy with the other’s approach to health? Does one have habits or tendencies that concern the other (e.g., smoking, excessive dieting, poor diet)?

Question 13: What place does the other’s family play in our family life? How often do we visit or socialize together? If we have out-of-town relatives, will we ask them to visit us for extended periods? How often?

Question 14: If we have children, what kind of relationship do we hope our parents will have with their grandchildren? How much time will they spend together?

Question 15: Will we have children? If so, when? How many? How important is having children to each of us?

Question 16: How will having a child change the way we live now? Will we want to take time off from work, or work a reduced schedule? For how long? Will we need to rethink who is responsible for housekeeping?

Question 17: Are we satisfied with the quality and quantity of friends we currently have? Would we like to be more involved socially? Are we overwhelmed socially and need to cut back on such commitments?

Question 18: What are my partner’s needs for cultivating or maintaining friendships outside our relationship? Is it easy for me to support those needs, or do they bother me in any way?

Question 19: Do we share a religion? Do we belong to a church, synagogue, mosque or temple? More than one? If not, would our relationship benefit from such an affiliation?

Question 20: Does one of us have an individual spiritual practice? Is the practice and the time devoted to it acceptable to the other? Does each partner understand and respect the other’s choices?

Why shop Goldsmith Gallery Jewelers?

Whether it’s the diamond engagement ring of your dreams or a yogo pendant for you mom, why shop Goldsmith Gallery Jewelers?

Great question…so here are answers:

Great Customer Experience – Number one reason. Our staff is certified from the Gemological Institute of America and tested daily on questions someone would ask at any time. We are here to earn your trust by taking the time to ask questions, concerns, background, likes and interests? Most buyers now are profoundly educated on what they are looking for in diamond  or gemstone before they come in because of information readily available at their fingertips and the palm of their hand. Our job is to listen and then guide to your decision, make all the steps in the Buyer’s journey a delight. Let us help, offer you a glass of wine, coffee or an ice cold drink and we’ll help you make it the best decision ever!

Selection – While the larger chain stores purchase 1000’s of pieces identical to each other, we hand pick our selection and designers. Many are one of a kind, hand-crafted pieces, which should be if you are buying for once-in-a-lifetime person. We cater to those who have exquisite and extraordinary tastes, but keep our costs competitive to the larger stores. Our diamonds, for instance are hand selected by the Owner, Scott Wickam, in Antwerp and transported direct so you know you are getting quality at a great price as the middle man is eliminated.

Warranty – We offer a lifetime warranty for FREE, whereas most charge $300-$500 extra for just a few years. Our warranty extends all across the United States so you can take it to jewelers who participate in the Preferred Warranty Program in case you relocate or are vacationing.

Customer Trust and Loyalty – We exert our enthusiasm for Goldsmith Gallery as most of us are here for the long haul. We love our jobs because we love working with our customers sure they are absolutely happy with their decision. Since our staff is here for many years, you can feel comfortable visiting a familiar smile after establishing a professional relationship with someone, a friendship on many occasions.

A Destination – Honestly, the most beautiful store west of the Missippi! Relax by our bar,
watch a game on the big screen, warm up by our 30 ft. fireplace and treat your eyes to a magnificent piece by Chance Robinson. Besides all that glitters and gold, our store takes pride in “the WOW factor”.

Are Diamonds A Girl’s Best Friend?

I’ve always wondered where and why this statement surfaced as a little girl. It originally came from a jazz song introduced by Carol Channing in the original Broadway production of Gentlemen Prefer Blondes (1949). Later starring Marilyn Monroe in a movie, it’s a comedy about two gold-digging dames who sing and dance, go to Paris, get mixed up with millionaires and paupers, and live happily ever after.

In reality though, it doesn’t quite happen that way. In fact, most of us don’t sing, or dance
(at least, thankfully, not in public) and Paris is a bucketlist item. Till then, I’ll plug away singing “Best Day of My Life” by American Authors quietly in my head while wickedly dancing my fingertips on the keyboard of my computer.

Why a diamond for her best friend? I asked a few of our team members:

“It represents a commitment from the other. It is the most classic, timeless piece as far as trends go.” So true as it never goes out of style throughout ancient history.

“You never lose the value of a diamond, it keeps it’s strength, eminent light and beauty. It is of heirloom quality”

“It’s beauty will last a lifetime and rest gingerly on her finger through all her marriage. So many stories to tell if it could talk.”

Ok…my favorite…

“Diamonds represent marriage in every way…heat and pressure to create a perfect one .”

I’ll just leave this here 🙂